SEMINAR ON THE AIR

Notes: I am not a marriage counselor! All of my words here are base on my own personal experiences and opinion….

TOPIC: ALL SIDES OF UNSUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

MAIN FOCUS:

1.hearing both sides

2. Finding the truth

3. Protecting both sides

4. Be Neutral

HEARING BOTH SIDES

Have you ever been to any kinds of relationships? Boyfriend or girlfriend, partner or into marriage either successful or not ?

Come to think of it , this space might not be enough to share and tackle all related to relationships or specifically related to either successful or unsuccessful marriage.

When two people involved in marriage separated or suffering from a lot of obstacles or ups and downs of marriage it is one big problem that all connected to them like their children, parents , brothers and sisters as well as those people who are out of the family like your neighborhood, or those who loves to gossiping around might all contributed in giving their own perceptions or personal opinion. Without even , asking : is it really Godly or justifiable to judge without knowing the whole story ?

FINDING THE TRUTH

We all know that both parties can give and share all their experiences to people close to them . Sometimes it might be misinterpreted or others might be misinformed of their real situation or the actual problem both parties had gone through in the course of their marriage or relationships.

Unless you are in the shoes of the person who is into the picture, we can never get the truth and the whole story.

And in trying to find the truth ,it’s either you will all be exposing details in order to be understood? And yet at the end of the day , if you are believer of God , you will chose to make those things in private rather than sharing it .

But , how you gonna deal in the situation when you’re being judge and you had that feeling of being condemned? Our conscience will always be our strong compass in dealing with it .When you know in your heart the whole truth and nothing but the truth , everything just don’t matter . Let them judge you , let them persecute you.

PROTECTING BOTH SIDES

Even when your marriage is already dead or unsuccessful you will always remember that your wife or spouse is once upon a time a part of your life .

If we are saying we are a Christian, then destroying them is not a sign of being a Christian. Both parties has their own secrets only the two of them has knowledge about it . Sometimes it is better not to talked about it in whatever forms or ways , with the thoughts , it is not all a help if those very personal matter must be known like for example here on social media. It’s a way of honoring the memories of your unsuccessful-marriage.

BE NEUTRAL

What is by the way being neutral , especially concerning unsuccessful marriage?

It is about those people around them , I guessed hearing both sides without being biased is all a help to the situations. Forcing one parties to get back and save one relationship or marriage is not all the solution.

Perhaps we can offer a heart to heart talked , but with openness. As mentioned above , hearing both sides will do to the situations . People involved for sure in one way or another never wishes his/her marriage to come to an end . Who never wish a longtime and forever marriage , who never wants a whole perfect family ? Who never believed in the sanctity of matrimony?

No one wants to get old alone , sad and unhappy right ? But there are circumstances and events in our life that sometimes can no longer be fix but getting out of the situations is far more workable both for the parties.

To look from afar is much more easier than to get involved and be the subject matter . Why be so mean and act like one God when the two people involved has been suffering both from the consequences of their failing marriage …

Offering prayers , wishing them well to move on and finally claimed and embraced ACCEPTANCE are all what is powerful and helpful to people who is experiencing the tribulations of unsuccessful marriage .

How about you , how you participate in the life of your family or closed friends experiencing unsuccessful relationships? Your words matter to me !

Thanks for your time in reading this !

Much love,

-WEWE-